“Las las, e don cast, Na everybody go chop breakfast 😂”
NB: I’m not writing this from a place of personal sentimen, lol, maybe I am but anyhow sha.
So, apparently (I don’t know if this English correct), everyone don chop breakfast. Either you were served or na you serve( anyways, all of us.na X-men, ifykyk)
Talking from experience, breakfast isn’t one of my favorite things to experience, it isn’t anyone’s favorite thing (unless na you serve am, yes, you wicked person 😂😂). Honestly, I feel it’s a phase we all dread, Lowkey expect but dread because to an extent we’re all scared of that pain, that heaviness in our chest and that tears that never seems to end but the thing is that e go reach you my guy.
As y’all know, I’m a lover girl and I really love love, call me the brand ambassador of the concept, love but omo the whole love thing hasn’t been nice to me and I don chop breakfast wey pass my power( inserts crying emoji). Soooo, I’m going to share a personal breakfast story and how I managed to navigate through it, even though to an extent it still hurts.
(Quick question: Do you really get over an ex?? Please answer in the comments section. Gracias ❤️).
Soooo, sometime after my secondary school, I was in a long distance ship with……..( let’s call him Y). So I was in a relationship with Y, he was at home and I was home and we were texting backforth and professing love( Baby have you eaten? No I want to eat you 😂😭) and it was going so cool till few months in the relationship he ghosted me( 👻) , no calls, no texts, barely anything and I was freaking out. In summary, I was in a relationship with myself and my intuition was like “girl he’s gone” (my instincts no dey try sha). I decided to go through his profile and noticed there was this aunty that was always tagging him. To cut the long story short, he sent me the “I don’t think we can do this anymore” text (omo i for just sleep by 8 that night). When I received the message, I was broken, devastated because I did nothing wrong and I didn’t know how to move and I think this leads to my personal breakfast navigation stages:
1) CRYBABY STAGE: The tears never ends, I literally cried my eyes out, I could fill a tank at this point because I felt so much, I was pained, angry, hurt, name it. At one point, I felt my heart would hurt so much that I couldn’t take it anymore. But the craziest thing was that as each day passed, i cried less and lesser and it didn’t hurt anymore and it occurred to me how crying really helped. So, if you ever going through a breakup, please cry, let it all out.
2) SWEAR FOR THEM!!: This is my favorite part. Please swear for them if it makes you feel better. Swear on top his head, his friends, his dog, everything everything and mind you your friends are really important in this stage. Lol, their anger could literally fuel yours and remember the pain that boy caused you. The moment I told my home girls what Y has done and told the the full story, I received “he’s mad” from all angles 😂. “ Another girl will show him shege” “he’s a fool” “he’s not even fine” lol, it might not sound healthy but if it makes you feel better, swear for him but please don’t be extreme……
3) VULNERABILITY AND NOSTALGIA?: Omo, I really don’t understand this stage. Sometimes i do enter situationships to heal because i feel so alone but trust me, this isn’t the best way. And it’s okay if you start remembering the beautiful moments y’all had and all but never ever get into a rebound. They’re not really the best way to heal and know it’s okay to feel nostalgic and all.
4) MOVING ON: okay this is a lil bit difficult because I’m clueless about what I want for myself and all but one thing is for sure, that I’ve decided to move on and let go of what was and look forward to what will… love is ever present and all. And also, if your ex posts a nice girl on his status, it’s a good sign that you should move also. But don’t move on to pepper your ex, move on for yourself and you’d never regret it. Never forget that there are many fishes in the ocean.
Breakfast is something everyone can relate to in one way or the other and as humans we’ve developed various ways to cope with whatever grief and pain we feel that period. Someone once told me that “ heart break is some kind of death but we are always forced to keep living” and I couldn’t agree more because breakfast pain is so excruciating and you could literally swear that you won’t fall in love but who are we kidding??
- So if you do have any tips that have helped go through a breakup, please do share in the comments section because some of us will definitely need it
- Also, between Men and women, who dey serve breakfast more and who get serves more???
- If possible, do share a personal breakfast story that really showed you shege, This is a safe space ❤️& 💡
Comments
Very very necessary for healing
But also, allow yourself to feel all the feelings, it’ll hurt but it’s better than pushing them to the background and randomly bursting into tears in the exam hall😂😂
Working through your feelings will always be the better option
Cheers🥂
I remember mine,served hot with cold hollandia yoghurt😹.... Omo I had to leave several classes to go cry in the toilet cause I couldn't stop thinking about it
But I think hanging out with close friends and going out helps to dampen the throb in your chest, cause they'll leave you little or no room to actually feel sad...
So catch as much friendly cruise you can,go out and have fun even if you don't want to.... It'll help you move on quicker
Thanchu🤧❤️
I will swear for you with everything in me then be like “bu I miss him������”
The pain when you remember s memory together, or a song that used to be “”our song”” the worst is perceiving his scent from nowhere �� I remember my last breakfast, I literally bought an oil perfume cause it smelled like him and tbh it made me get used to it and move on
Omo life hard. Please let’s not make it harder for ourselves������
This is a nice story. I also want to add that you should delete photos and videos that reminds you of the person. I think it helps too.
Also, biko, which one is “swear for his friends”😂 y’all shud leave innocent guys out of it😂😂
Awesome writeup kiddo💯