SHOULD KNACK BE KNACK OR A SNACK?

“ A woman becomes emotionally invested in the man that she has sex with and is physically intimate with-unless she’s a prostitute and has learnt to detach herself.”

 I totally agree with this statement because I am woman and woman is me and this applies to most women out there(unless, you’re doing whoocup or you got an A + in a detachment course, no offense though). Now the thing is; why is it this way? Why we women? Why can’t men in general be emotionally invested in a woman they are intimate with? And why can’t we ladies be like “ yeah, i fucked him and I don’t feel a thing” or “Nah, it was just casual sex to me”. Why do we have to put our emotions the moment we become all physical with a man and once the whole thing ends, the sex is more like a loss to us? (So many whys here though 😂)

 My best friend, (whom I intend to keep anonymous but let’s call her “S”, yes S would do) said to me, that to men, sex is casual, the rate of them being emotionally attached is quite low but we ladies don’t see sex as casual, rather we see it from an emotional perspective and get attached easily (which at the end, fucks us up, sighs😮‍💨). 

Well, to be honest, I’ve never ever ever heard a guy talking about sex being something emotional to him;(nope, not even one). Nah, it’s all about the gain and the fun- maybe, I could safely say that sex is all funs and games to the male gender, because even though a breakup do happen, it’s like the sex was a gain(like sha sha, at least we knacked🤷). This mindset affects the women in the sense that them/we/(maybe me.lol) attaching their emotions is downright stupid (inserts SMH emoji).

Okayy, quick story time. So there was this dude on my case, bro has a girl, he hit me up one day and was like “yo, come over to my place and let’s vibe”(is that what you guys/men call it now, vibe? 😂). He hit me up continuously and I’m like “Bruh, I’m not interested” (apparently i have a boo, and even if I didn’t have one, I wouldn’t still want to “vibe” with this guy). So skipping to the good part, I eventually found out what our dude wanted was to smash and pass, (like fr!!). It was real funny because I wasn’t really interested from the onset(this bird doesn’t fly that way bro). So the point is that looking at this from the alternative angle, if I had agreed to vibe and eventually got laid, obviously, I’d the one hurting and I’ll be an added gain or conquest to him. (Omo, My God loves me sha).

So the big question is that should knacks the knack( like strictly casual) or should it be a snack that you need to take your time on every piece to discover something new, thrilling and unique about each bite(in plain English, should it be more???). 

And also should ladies be comfortable with having casual sex without being slut-shamed (slut-shaming-another topic for another day)? Or is it safe for their emotions to be invested in any person they’re being intimate with?

Anddd, is it also safe to say there are men out there who believe that sex isn’t all fun and games and it’s something sacred and emotional? (Talk oh!!, nobody will beat you😂)or is it just all fun and games?

-> So please, if you have any opposing views, personal experience or story or contributions, the comments section is wide open and I’d love to see how you feel about this topic, after all “it’s mine and our thoughts”. Any and every view is welcomed(and also, I really don’t want to see this in one perspective 😊)

                                   Gracias❤️.